Q: I want to understand more [about] the nature of co-creation.
Abe: So here you are, you have an idea of what you want. And here [your husband] is, or someone is, and they have an idea of what they want. And let’s say that they don’t seem to be identical. Let’s say, in fact, that they might even be different. But because you’re together all the time it feels like if you get what he wants that you can’t get what you want, and he feels the same way. So you look at what he wants and sort of push against it, which makes you not a vibrational match to your own desire. And he looks at what you want and pushes against that, which makes him not a vibrational match to his own desire. So now here are two people who could be, but aren’t, a vibrational match to their own desire, and now they’re blaming each other for not getting what they want. Where if you could just mind your business and not push against what he wants and just visualize what you want, fantasize what you want, pretend what you want, give your attention to what you want, find the feeling place of what you want, then no matter what anybody else is doing the Universe will find a way of yielding. And if both of you are doing that, it is amazing the ways the Universe can find to give you both exactly what you want, even though you want different things.
Q: So the key is: mind our own business.
Abe: That is the message of this day! (Laughter.) And when you are really minding your own business, that means you are tuning in to the purity that is you, you are tuning in the brilliance that is you, you’re tuning in to the good feeling that is you. In other words, your own business is thriving. That’s who you are. You’re supposed to feel good.
— Abe — San Antonio, TX, 4/17/04