It is possible for you to be selfishly oriented and care about someone else at the same time. But you can’t let what they want matter more to you than what you want, or you are going to get out of balance. Then that’s where you start sacrificing, which lays the groundwork for resentment.

Then you find yourself in an adult relationship like so many adults who have parents and parents who have adult children, and none of them even like each other. Because their relationship is based on sacrifice and resentment instead of upon balance and alignment and self-sufficency.

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