We want you to focus upon what you want in alignment with deliberate thought. Close the gap with where you are. No need to hold people in a way for them to make you feel better. That’s the pain of relationships. That is giving the other the power. If they did give you what you wanted you would feel suffocated. A relationship becomes magnificent when it is with you. Practice bringing yourself up the emotional scale. You don’t ever have to leave your relationship behind. If you could find reaching thoughts that feel better that give you relief. When you are in alignment your relationships will be fresh and open. We would get in alignment with who we are. Ask Source please help me to align to find my perfect mate. You will find a mate that matches you up the emotional scale. Either launch more in your vibrational escrow or have someone that matches your current emotional set point. This the next logical step. In your cultural you want to make everyone the final step. You end up going in the opposite direction. Everything in life is standing where you are on your way to a fuller and fuller understanding. You could come together where someone matches who you are. As you give birth to that do the work - the processes. This relationship can evolve when you move up the emotional scale. If you want to be kind to others move up the emotional scale and then find that person. You can clean up your relationships. If you let your relationship with you and you close that gap what happens is every relationship improves. They have components that are a match to who you are. The best of them is activated in you and then you are not running around you are allowing law of attraction to draw it to you. People give you what you expect every time. All relationships are about you.