Part 1
You say, “My friend’s over here, so I’m going to stay over here and be afraid, too.
And what we are really amplifying here is you have a relationship that is more important than your relationship with that person and that is your relationship with you. If you don’t tent to that relationship, you don’t have anything to give that person.
So you have to say, “My fear is natural given the thoughts I am thinking. I can’t control the conditions that I am afraid of, but I can control my right-now attention to them, which is the reason.” You see, you’re not feeling fear because the condition exists, you are feeling fear because looking at the conditions is activating it in your vibration and causing contradiction in your own energy stream.
You don’t feel fear because there’s bad things out there. And you know that, because bad things were out there before you knew about them, and you didn’t feel fear.
Guest: I’m trying to process because you’ve kind of made it all about me!
Abraham: It IS all about you!!! It IS all about you!!! You don’t want it to be, you want to say to us, “Abraham, I’ve got this person who is behaving in a way, and when I observe him that way, I don’t feel so good. So I need you to teach me to teach him not to behave that way so I can feel better.”
And we say, That’s trying to control conditions and when you try to control conditions, you decide that you are powerless. And powerlessness is what fear is. Powerlessness is what fear is.
It’s saying, “I’m afraid there are some conditions over which I have no control that will get me. And I will have no control.” And there isn’t any such thing because you HAVE control.
And you say, “No, I don’t! I can’t control HIM!”
And we say, “You can control of the aspects of him that you activate most dominantly within you.
And you say, “No, I can’t. He’s too vivid in my life.”
And we say, “Then you haven’t practiced hard enough.”
And you say, “Well I haven’t practiced that at all. I just look around and I have knee jerk responses to things.”
And we say, “Well you need to clean up your vibration. You need to be a better selective sifter. You don’t go to the buffet and take anything they dish out to you. You’re selective! You don’t go to every movie. You select the ones. You don’t listen to all the movies. You don’t wear all the clothes. You don’t drive all the cars.
You are picky-picky-picky-PICKY about so many things. BE picky-picky-picky-PICKY about the way you feel! BE picky-picky-picky-PICKY about the way you feel!
Boca Raton, FL 10/30/06