And so, if you worry about your children, in the moment of your worrying, can you not feel your diminishment of your Energy? Your goal is that they grow up and live happily ever after. Your goal is that they find something that they like to do and they focus upon it. Your goal as a parent is that they find something that holds their interest long enough that Life Force flows through them toward the successful fruition of it. But as you worry that they might not find that, now you hold them as an object of attention that doesn’t match your own desire. So you can not positively influence them because you’re already observing what-is or what you think is, rather than holding the clear vision of what you are wanting.
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So you might as well just relax and acknowledge that all is really well. Fast forward through this time that you are worrying about, imagining them graduating and feeling wonderful and thriving and shining and knowing that they’ve got a happy home. Imagine them walking and running. Imagine them walking away from you, and you can tell by the lilt in their step that they are turned on, tapped in, feeling great. See them surrounded by other people. See them feeling success. Feel or hear the enthusiasm in their voice.
And if you don’t have that in your now reality, you have to pretend it — but when you pretend it, you will be a vibrational match to your own desire, and when you are a vibrational match to your own desire, you will inspire them to it.
Abraham-Hicks, Jan/Feb/Mar/ 1997 Newsletter