Question: I would like to be in a romantic relationship. I’m 54, never been married. I met a man that I would like to be with, we’ve been corresponding, we both date people, he dates a lot of different women. We still talk to eachother but I keep seeing that he dates a lot of different women, so I’m thinking ‘Oh no, he’s a playboy’, so should I hold the intention that he be the one, or just see myself in a beautiful loving relationship?
Abraham: The answer is within you, and you’ll feel it as we point it out. If holding this particular person as the image of what you’re moving toward makes your heart sing, as you dance toward it, then hold the image. But if holding the image of him specifically makes you feel uncomfortable, then that particular image is not serving you well. We would like to say to you that, when you get to the heart of vibration, when you get yourself into alignment with your own desire, source will open an avenue for your partner to come swiftly. And when you interact, you both will know it. There won’t be any ‘yeah I enjoy your company, but meanwhile I’d like to check out the four billion other women, just in case there’s someone better’. When you’ve done the vibrational work, and then the action that’s inspired unfolds, and you meet someone, you know it. What’s happened here is, you’ve had a physical action experience, previous to doing the vibrational work. And you’re trying, after the fact, to make it into the right thing. And it’s going about it the hard way. It just wasn’t a good sync up for you. It doesn’t mean he is inappropriate, or you are inappropriate, it means there are much easier relationships that the universe is lining up for you.
Questioner: So what way of being can I have to bring myself to the right person?
Abraham: Well, we were talking about hypnosis earlier, and practiced thought, we were talking about how environment hypnotizes you into patterns of thought, so that you radiate a signal, and the signal you’re radiating is, `I’m unmarried, I’ve been for 54 years’. You want to offer a different signal, you have to offer a signal that says ‘I’m fun to be with’, ‘I enjoy co-creating’, ‘I’m fun to be with’, ‘I’m loving life’, and ‘I’m open for change’. We understand that you are explaining where you are, but in your explaining, is activating your story, you’re activating ‘I’m tired of what I’ve been getting’. Find relief, move in the right direction and your feelings will tell you so. What do you want to say about you?
Questioner: I don’t want to listen to all these people anymore. I don’t even want to listen to that guy who’s checking out everybody else, when he’s got me standing right in front of him! (roaring laughter and clapping)
Abraham: AND??? You’re on a roll…
Questioner: And anybody else who’s checking other people out!
Abraham: You’re not just mad at him, you’re mad at all of them, is that what you’re telling us?
Questioner: because…
Abraham: BECAUSE…….
Questioner: because of my dad… um, no (hesitating at wrong answer). Abraham: It’s alright, we had something else in mind, when we said ‘because’ we wanted you to say…………
Questioner: BECAUSE I’M WORTH CHECKING OUT ….!!!!
Abraham: YES YES YES!!!
Washington workshop, October 15, 2005