[At the end of a segment in which Abraham talks with a woman about her relationship with her son.]
Abraham: Most importantly, we would like you to come to the place that you could say, wholeheartedly, sincerely, really mean it, to everyone:
“I adore you as you are, change not one bit for me. Because there’s enough about you — and there are enough OF you — that I can please myself by selectively sifting from among you that which makes up my perfect world. I am no longer going to ask any one of you to change in any way to make me even the slightest bit happier. And in doing so, maybe that lets you off the hook, I don’t really know, I’m not really caring all that much about that, but I do know one thing: it lets me off the hook. Because I am no longer asking the impossible. I’m no longer needing you to change so that I can feel better. I finally got a direct route to feeling great, and that is controlling my own point of focus.”
It’s so refreshing.
Woman: Yes.
Abraham: Yes.
Woman: Yes. (laughs) Thank you.
From Abraham-Hicks workshop 8/23/03, San Diego, California