Abraham: Well, most of you are a little bit impatient and you want to jump in to the middle of things with your action in order to try to facilitate them. Where what we would do, if we were standing in your physical shoes, is we would align ourselves with our own desires and let the Manager called Law of Attraction work things out. And by that — let’s take the example of the lover. So you realize that you’re feeling uncomfortable. And you could offer the words that say, “I don’t want to do this any more”…
Q: Which I did.
A: Which felt uncomfortable for you to offer and felt uncomfortable for him to receive. Or you could acknowledge that you notice that you’re not a vibrational match. Now this is the thing that is hard to hear but when you think about Law of Attraction as you know it to be, it makes perfect sense. So let’s say you are focused upon the things you like the most about this person. And you beat the drum of those things. Maybe there’s 10 things don’t like and one thing that you do, but you beat the drum of the thing that you like. You beat the drum of what you want, which is not the predominant part, let’s say, for sake of our example.
So what happens is you activate within yourself the very best that you’ve seen in this person, which means you activate that in them, which means your relationship gets better. But let’s say the part that you’ve activated, which means the most to you, is a very small part of who this person has practiced being.
Q: Right.
A: And so, as you make yourself not a reflector of who this person is, but a reflector of only a part of who this person is, you stay in alignment, but you lose your connection with this person because you begin offering a vibration that is different from who this person is. In other words, as you look at this person in his entirety and you beat the drum of everything that he is, you’re a perfect reflection of who he is, and it’s logical that he would be in your life forever — all of the parts. But if you’re only beating the part that means the most . . .
Q: A-ha.
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A: And what causes people to hold people they don’t want in their experience, to the point that then they have to offer some overt, uncomfortable action in order to change it, is being sloppy in your vibration by being an observer of what is rather than a deliberate offerer of what you want to see.
Abraham, North Los Angeles, 8/17/03