Without exception, the flawed premise or unstable footing that most people = stand on is because they care more about what someone else is thinking abou= t them than how they themselves are feeling. So, over time, by interacting = with many others(who also want to feel better and have trained those around= them to offer behaviour that does make them temporarily feel better-that i= s, “Don’t please you, but instead please me”- that is, “Don’t you dare to b= e selfish and satisfy yourself, but instead please me”), they have lost sig= ht of their own Guidance and have become further and further seperated from= who-they-are. And so, they feel worse and worse as time goeson, and so the= y come to incorrect conclusion after incorrect conclusion until they are co= mpeltely lost.”
The Vortex, p. 9 Abraham-Hicks