Q: It seems to me like I came into this lifetime with a desire for an intimate love relationship with a man. Is that possible?
Abe: Certainly. You see, as a powerful creator, there is nothing more delicious than to be co-creating with another who is equally deliberate. When you think about this contrast that gives birth to desire - think about it - what could put you more into an environment of constantly giving birth to new desires than to have someone you really care about close to you living their contrasting experience? The thing that most people are confused about is they think that the perfect relationship is one where you want identically, you think identically. The perfect relationship for a powerful deliberate creator like you is a contrasting experience. And we’re not talking about trauma, we’re talking about enough difference that it produces endless new desires that then collectively, together, you can achieve vibrational harmony with.
Q: I got divorced about 4-1/2 years ago, and I want to talk about this idea of near-misses because it seems like since that time there have been a series of I’ve attracted men who were inappropriate for one reason or another….
Abe: Well, we have to say - before you go any further, we want to speak what we are feeling and we want to speak it because others are feeling it, too, and we want to confirm what they are all feeling, and that is that the way you feel - in other words, the way the Universe is reading your vibration is, “I’m not where I want to be.”
Q: Yes.
Abe: So what you’re really saying to the Universe is, “Universe, bring more of this that I do not want. I’m not happy here. I don’t really want to be here. I can explain how long I’ve been here. (Laughter from audience.) And I’d like to tell you I’m not the only one who is here. But just the same I’m not very happy in being here.” And so when you pick up the stick called My Intimate, Lovely Relationship, your vibration is so dominantly where you are that that’s why it seems like it’s taking so long.
Now we want to give you something here that will please you. In all of this not being happy where you are you’ve been shooting up all kinds of rockets of desire. You are not yet doing a very good job of staying in vibrational harmony with those rockets of desire, but the Universe is not short on understanding of what you want. You’ve launched powerful rockets - it’s like you’ve stretched a rubber band back, back, back, back, back, back, back, and you’re still standing like this. But when you let go big things will happen. That letting go, letting go of the disappointment of where you are - mostly, the thing that we feel most powerfully within you… there are layers of sticks relative to every subject, so within this specific stick called My Relationship is my feeling about me,’ there is a big stick in there about how you thought that you would make an eternal promise and you’re really mad that that eternal promise was not kept - in other words, that’s the biggest bugaboo that we feel in this pile of sticks. That’s the one that if we were standing in your physical shoes we would work on releasing. We would do it by saying things like, “None of us are ever in a place where as we make our first decisions and have our first manifestations that that manifestation will satisfy what we want forever more. We are continually gaining new experience and having all kinds of new contrast which give birth to all kinds of new desires. I will always be in the place of wanting something more.” It is all right for you to have realized that, and as you release that vibration we think you’ll let go of that rubber band and all kinds of things will begin to move.
We would encourage you to enjoy this process. We would say to you there will be a series of mind-expanding relationships, and we’re not talking about a long time before you get to where you’re wanting to be. We’re talking about a steady, quick stream of lots of stimulating people that will help you to clarify very succinctly what you are now wanting. Do you think that if you sat down with a notebook that you could describe to the Universe what you are looking for in a relationship?
Q: I have written my list.
Abe: But do you think that you are now ready? In other words, do you think where you stand, that if the Universe [were] standing here with a magic wand ready to zap you with it today - looked like we were going to beat you up with it, didn’t it? (laughter from audience) - going to zap you with it today, do you think that you are ready to deliver your list? Do you think that you have delivered the list and that you’re ready to say, “Completed enough for now, give me manifestation, I’m ready to commit the next several years of my life to this manifestation, I’m ready, give it to me” - are you ready for that?
Q: Well, I’m close. (Laughter from audience.) I may not be that ready, completely ready. (More laughter.)
Abe: Now if you had said to us, “I’m ready,” we would have said to you then play with those ideas because in playing with the ideas you bring yourself into vibrational harmony with it. We say the same thing to you in either case: play with the idea of it. But we can feel [the need] for more clarification. We think that you’ve just been beating up on yourself about the fact that you’re in this position. The thing that we keep feeling from you more than anything is that you did not think that you would be here.
Q: Yes.
Abe: And you’re irritated that you are here. And whether you are blaming another or whether you’re blaming yourself, that is what’s predominantly holding you in the vibration that will not allow the other to come. As you let go of that — and you are, we can feel it - you will get movement. Yes.
Q: Thank you.
Abe: Indeed.
Q: I have been worried when I did attract these other people into my life and then, you know….
Abe: Well, that’s been a manifestation of where you are. In other words, think about it, you are offering this vibration, you want a fantastic being - in other words, you’re very clear and much of what you’ve been bringing has been a vibrational match to many of the things on your list. But can you see, when you think about this vibration that we’re pinpointing where you’re just sort of irritated and mad at yourself, can you see how that’s a match to what you’ve been talking about, to what you’ve been getting?
Q: Yes. Yes, absolutely.
Abe: It’s a wonderful thing, you see - as you begin to examine the content of your manifestation, it always helps you to understand more clearly what the content of your vibrational offering is.
All is well? You are feeling complete?
Q: I do have another question. How hard do I have to work in terms of action at this? I’ve read books that say, well, you have to go out every night and (laughter from audience) do all these things and go to events and meet lots and lots of people, and it seems very exhausting to me. (More laughter.) But in terms of action, is it necessary to do all that?
Abe: The Universe asks no action at all from you, all the Universe asks for you is a clear channel.
Q: Okay.
Abe: In other words, you’ve been telling the Universe all your life what you want relative to this subject, and now you’re saying, “I want this but I think I’ll just vibrate here for a while anyway.” And then you say, “And since it’s not working I think I’ll just beat myself to death with effort.” (Laughter.) “Still not working - I think I’ll beat myself to death with more effort. Still not working, I think I’ll beat myself to death with more effort. WHERE ARE THESE PEOPLE?? (Laughter.) They’ve got to be somewhere - I will look under every rock on the planet! I will join all the organizations! I’m going to make this rotten thing happen!” (Laughter.)
Q: Thank you very much.
Abe: Indeed.